03 Establishing her preferences
If she isn’t already directing the whole process, and you are confident, you can ask her a few questions. Bear in mind, you can be as subtle as you like – you may be rumbled even if you don’t know you have been!
1. Ask her about rings in general.
If you’re going past a jeweller pretend to be interested in a watch. Then casually drop a comment about the styles of rings, saying you like a certain type and asking her what she likes. If you’re very good, she won’t notice the ruse. If you’re more like the general population, she’ll probably put two and two together but she still won’t know when!
2. Friend’s engagement ring?
You could try making a comment about a friend’s engagement ring to see if you get a reaction/opinion from her.
3. Ask her family for ideas.
This will depend on whether or not you want them to know before she does, but if you were planning on seeking her father’s permission first, then may be helpful.
4. Get one of her close friends in on the plan.
They may be able to canvas some opinion from a celebrity engagement ring, or again discussion on mutual friend’s ring. Pick one you know will be behind the idea, and can keep quiet about it! This is not always the best option if you’d prefer to keep it quiet until the moment of the proposal!
In addition, you may already have received some hints from her directly – does any of the following sound familiar?
- Pepper Hinting: She peppers conversation with mentions of preferred styles, stones or metals.
- Pointed Hinting: Hand gestures are deployed, to point out designs she finds ‘interesting’ on the high street.
- Crowd Hinting: She’ll use her family and friends to drop less subtle verbal hints to you.
- Subtle Hinting: She accidentally ‘leaves’ her Christmas wish list lying around, or sticks a ring design on the fridge..